It
is not a good thing to accidentally do anything that causes
injury during lifestyle play.
It
is completely irresponsible and unsafe to play with someone, even yourself, who
is being incautious enough to accidentally cause harm. Many types
of play in the lifestyle are dangerous. And by dangerous i mean an activity
that can cause youserious bodily harm or death.
It
isn’t safe for a sub, and it isn’t safe for a Dom to be playing without taking
care and precautions to prevent that from happening.
As
a sub, you could end up with permanent injuries, nerve damage, paralysis
or death. As a Dom You could end up in a lawsuit, behind bars, or depending on
the laws where you reside, facing the death penalty.
No
one wants that.
If
you are participating in play where the intention is to cause controlled
injuries to the body, and by that i mean bruising, bleeding, burning, scarring,
Y/you damn well better be doing it in a responsible, controlled, planned way.
Know
anatomy and know where You are striking Your sub/bottom. If You are striking
them repeatedly or with force over bony protuberances on the body, You may
bruise or break the bone. If You strike them repeatedly or with force over
their kidneys You may bruise or scar their kidneys.
There are numerous publications and websites that have charts
showing safe and unsafe area’s to strike a person. Study them.
With
Your hand, a whip, a paddle, a crop, a flogger, a cane, anything You are using to strike
them, know Your instruments, know Your art, know where to strike and where not to strike, and the
amount of force it is safe to use.
Always
have sharp scissors, preferably bandage scissors, handy when You are tying
someone up. It only takes a few minutes for lack of blood supply/oxygen to
cause necrosis of tissues and nerve damage.
If
it took You 20 minutes to tie them up and it’s going to take You 10 minutes to
untie them, You better have a backup plan for when things go wrong, and with
rope play Your best backup is a pair of bandage scissors and depending on the
rigging a spotter to help if/when things go wrong.
There
are so many potentially dangerous forms of play, that’s why trust, knowledge,
knowing Y/your play partner, education, negotiation and control are so
important.
Part
of being a good Dom or sub is playing responsibly.
Yes,
accidents may happen, but if Y/you play responsibly Y/you minimize the risk. If
it was something that could have easily been prevented, then maybe Y/you shouldn't be playing with that person or in that way.
So
yes, i accidentally burned myself with my
wand, and yes i was being stupid. It’s not something i'm
bragging about or proud of, it’s something stupid that i shouldn't have let
happen.
It is no good to play with someone who gets so caught up in the
play that they lose sight of safety, even if that someone is yourself.
Be
smart, play responsibly. When Y/you don’t and something serious happens, W/we
all suffer the consequences. :(
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