Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Masters and mastering

i was talking with a Dominant whom i am close to and in the course of the conversation it occurred to me that it’s not just a Master that i want as a submissive but to be mastered.

There are a lot of people new to the lifestyle or maybe even who have been involved in the lifestyle for a while who want to be a Master and who even claim the title without really considering what that is outside of being dominant.

And i think it’s fairly safe to say that for most submissives just any Master wont do. i don’t want a Master….i want my Master. 

And i don’t mean as a possessive pronoun but rather as someone who has mastered me. Mastered being used as a verb .

The verb, to master, is defined as to acquire complete knowledge or skill in (an accomplishment, technique, or art) with synonyms like learn, and grasp, and understand. So you master the art of woodcrafting or you are a master rigger. 

And for myself, that depth of understanding and knowledge, the skill and patience and persistence to become a master is a large part of the appeal in a Master.

The idea of giving up control to someone who has learned you, studied you, mastered you send shivers up my back. It’s that level of communication and agreement and trust that i want.

i’m not looking for Superman or super powers or super anything and i certainly don’t want perfection. But i do want someone who is going to invest as much in me as i invest in him. 

If i am going to call someone Master i expect them to be willing to master me.

~sandi

originally posed on my tumblr. here

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